The number one thing mentioned is that kids wish their parents wouldn’t badmouth the other parent after a divorce. It seems (DUH) that the badmouthing makes the child feel sad, and it establishes an environment that is unsettled at best and downright hostile at worst.
I have said this and said this and said it some more, but the number one priority of the Living Simple lifestyle is to provide for the needs of family and loved ones. Those needs not only include food and shelter but must include emotional security as well.
Quite frankly it pisses me off when divorced parents cannot grow up enough to stop this kind of nonsense. Oh yes, I can hear the excuses now…..you should have seen what he did to me….you should hear what she says about me….and yes, I am quite certain that there is pain and anger and angst.
However, the children never caused any of it. They are the innocents in a marriage, and they are the innocents in any divorce, and if a parent truly loves his/her children, there is no way they will subject them to emotional trauma by badmouthing the other parent.
You can have all the reasons in the world for disliking your ex, but the bottom line is your children do not need to hear about it. It is incredibly selfish to hurt your child while you vent so that you can feel better.
Living Simple….getting down to basics!
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